so I haven't updated lately.. just too much going on. My family's been remodeling the house and everything is chaos! Other than that I have just been dealing with my mother's drama. I really feel like I just want to move out, I mean seriously a person can only take so much of another's constant criticism, bitching, and verbal abuse. From the earliest years of my life all I can remember of my childhood with my mother is her constant verbal abuse.. ugh on the surface our family appears to be the happiest.. but really so much shit goes on between my mother and i.. ONE for the fact that I am nothing like a CHINESE DAUGHTER should be IN HER EYES.. GOD I WISH SHE WASN'T SO NARROW MINDED... we're not in fucking early 1950s CHINA.. ugh I seriously need some therapy because of this effin lady.. I seriously try to make it work with her even my sisters see I make effort, but all I receive in return is everything negative I really can't take this anymore.. any advice? SOMEONE...
-shirley
omg! I can sooooooooooooo relate to you! My parents used to be the same way, they want me to like the "perfect Viet daughter". It was very hard growing up, and I guess it's an Asian parent thing. I just try to not let it get to me, I do what I want, but I am respectful at the same time. It was a big ordeal when I slept over my ex bfs house... But they got over it, and I have talked to them, and cried to them to stop pressuring me to be someone who I am not. I am not a murderer, I am not the devil, I just live differently than girls my age did in their time. It'll get better... Promise! And please don't move out... I live at home too, and right now with the shitty economy, it's rough, save your money while you are at home. I am always here for ya <3!
ReplyDeleteHey Shirley, you should never live for anyone but yourself. It doesn't matter who she wants you to be, as long as you are happy and you love yourself she will come around. Because the bottom line for all parents ( one would hope) is that they want you to be happy, it's hard to see that, but it's true, they argue and criticize you because they believe that you would be happier doing the things they believe you would be happier doing. It's all about your well being. Youre blessed to have your whole family living in one house, when you get older as I'm sure I will, I think I'll reminisce the times living at home. And often times parents or "moms" having a lot of negativity because of the baggage they hold -- they project it on to their daughters (usually the oldest) and it's on you to realize it's not your fault and responsibility to feed into whatever she's (your mom) has had to deal with.
ReplyDeleteJust my two cents!
Youre a tough cookie though, I think you'll figure things out.